1 - Infidelity is a major cause of marriage breakdown
There are many reasons why couples cheat. Perhaps because one is looking for extra attention outside of the marriage or the affection is no longer there. Although some couples forgive infidelity and move on, some spouses choose to end the relationship due to lack of trust.
When a marriage has ended because of cheating, the emotional and sexual aspect of it no longer thrills the couple so they opt for divorce. People assume that extra-marital affairs are one of the main reasons why marriages fail. Contrary to popular belief, only about 5 per cent of infidelity actually ends in divorce. While it may not be the primary cause of a relationship dying, it is still life destroying for both parties. When one of the partners enters a new relationship, he or she typically finds it difficult to regain trust and move forward.
2 - Becoming estranged and unsupportive
Marriage is a partnership that needs to be worked on. A major reason for divorce is when a couple grow apart. This often happens when one spouse decides that he or she no longer wants the same things in life as their husband or wife. In order to make the relationship work, it takes compromise, sacrifice, and much effort. If you marry someone with a different background socially, then you may not be doing yourself any justice.
You won’t be able to grow to your full potential if your chosen partner has different goals and dreams for the future. Many marriages have failed because spouses weren’t allowed to reform their social ties and friendships with the people they used to know. If your attitude to life goals is the same as your partner, you are more likely to have a successful marriage. As the saying goes ‘opposites attract’ but those type of couples may not live together in peace and harmony ‘til death do them part
3 - Lack of communication is a huge deal breaker
If you don’t share your feelings with your spouse, distance gets created between the two of you. By keeping your thoughts and emotions to yourself you will only harm your relationship. A successful marriage consists of keeping the communication line open at all times. In fact, communication is the single most effective trait of a successful marriage, and if there is a lack of it, the cracks will soon begin to appear.
Arguing and fussing over things is only natural, however, if you choose not to be honest and communicative, it’s not going to be good for your marriage’s health. There comes a point when you need to try and resolve any issues you have with your partner through clear and concise communication. This ensures that you have respect for each other and prevent your relationship from taking the self-destructive path.
4 - Abuse of any kind can end a marriage
Whether it’s sexual, physical, or psychological abuse, the relationship is over immediately. Some people opt to stay in an abusive marriage because of their kids, while others don’t want their children and themselves to become victims. Those who choose to stay in an abusive relationship are more likely to have been abused as a kid by family members, hence the reason they continue enduring further abuse from their partner.
Such marriages are devoid of love and trust as they dwell in the dark hands of abuse. If you don’t walk away from such a poisonous relationship, there is something very wrong with your mental state of health. After all, why would anyone want to live with an abusive partner for the rest of their lives. You don’t know what this person is capable of, even if they come up with numerous excuses for their unacceptable behaviour. This is the type of problem that can’t be fixed easily so it’s best to leave the relationship and seek counseling.
5 - Having conflicting goals separates couples
Most relationships tend to fail because spouses decide to go separate directions in their lives. Whether it’s a new career that will take you on faraway business trips, changing your religious or political views, wanting to relocate to another country, or you want a baby but your partner doesn’t, these factors can all be the end of a relationship. In a compromising relationship, some couples can reach an agreement on these issues.
However, depending on how realistic the goals are, it may be an indication for incompatibility. The husband or wife may feel that the relationship is not going anywhere and needs a change in direction. Over time, once both parties have moved on and achieved their long term goals, they will realise that they were stuck in a dead end relationship.
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